5 ways to rekindle your relationship
When we first meet someone new that we find attractive, it excites us and we are full of anticipation. We make extra effort to be on our best behavior and thrive in their attention.
As you develop a relationship and the years slip by, it is so easy to take each other for granted. It is easy for you to lose that spark that once made your relationship special.
It does not have to be this way. You can rekindle your relationship with your partner and get out of the rut that relationships can so easily slip into.
Snap out of the negative and focus on the positive
It is easy to allow the pressures of your daily life to impact on your relationship. If you focus on the negative things when you first meet a new partner, any budding relationship will be destroyed.
Negativity is just as destructive when you allow it to take over your long term relationship.
Allow yourself to be able to break out of the negativity rut and look at your partner constructively. Look for the positive things about them. Remind yourself why you loved them when you first met and all the positive qualities you have discovered about them since. When you start looking at your partner in a positive light, the feelings of affection and love that you had in the earlier days of your relationship are able to be rekindled. Identify what works well for your relationship and build on these strengths.
Make the most of the time you can catch up together
Remember when you hung on to every word your partner said. The art of quality listening is a relationship essential. Ask your partner how their day went and listen. Enquire further when they tell you about things that were important to them. By doing this you are showing that you value what they have to say and that they are important and valued by you.
Surprise your partner with a spontaneous kiss or hold hands to add a spark to your moments together. Hold hands or take their arm as you walk in public together.
Have some fun together
Organize a ‘date’ where you do something novel and fun together. Make it memorable rather than just an average night out.
Before you go out on the date, remind yourself about all the good qualities of your partner that you enjoy. Your positive attitude will be attractive to your partner and help add an extra spark.
Push your boundaries of what you would normally do with your partner and you will find it easier to get your relationship out of the mundane and routine rut that it can so easily slip into.
Make an effort together to set regular time aside that is solely dedicated to spending quality time together. With the frenetic lifestyles that we live today, it is important to make time to nurture your relationship with your partner. It is important not to drift apart by accident. Plan how you can spend time together so that time together doesn’t end up being wasted. The anticipation of what you are planning will help to further invigorate your relationship.
Make your special time together exclusive. Hide your cell phones so that they cannot intrude. That’s what the answer phone function is for!
Discussing the children’s school report, or the latest power bill is out…..flirting is in!
Step outside your normal comfort zone. It can help you both to see each other with fresh eyes and appreciate the reasons that you love each other.
Make the most of touch
Touch your partner, hold hands, cuddle, snuggle up on the sofa together. Flirt and enjoy each other. The connections you make by touch are powerful. It does not need to be reserved for sex or even solely reserved for sex.
Go to bed together at the same time. The times before you go to sleep and before you get up are powerful for maintaining a connection with your partner. Make time to cuddle, talk over the good things that happened with your day, why you love your partner or plan your next date. It is a special time for emotional connection. Don’t miss out on it!
When you have sex, have fun. This sounds obvious but it is so easy to slip into performing sex as a form of duty. Fun and pleasurable sex together will invigorate your relationship.
Look after you
When you make time to enjoy your own interests you will be looking after you. You will have a richer life to share with your partner and be a more dynamic person to be with.
When you are able to love yourself, you have more to bring to your relationship. When you develop your own interests and passions you will become more interesting and sexy!
